October 2019 - Boris Johnson's Platform Presentation at The Tory Party Conference

Johnson doing his pointy thing

Johnson doing his pointy thing

When speaking publicly, one of the sure fire things to do to get people to sit bolt upright in their seats, is to chuck in a word or phrase their ears might not always be necessarily attuned to. “Kangaroo Testicles” is one of those phrases or should I say a pair of those things that will do exactly that.

Boris Johnson the UK’s new Prime Minister certainly opened his premier party speech at conference today with a Barnstorming presentation. 

Just while we are on the Kangaroo Testicles - it feels almost as good to type as it does to write…that gag really worked - Johnson started with a big bold sweeping statement that if Parliament was a Celebrity TV Show all the MP’s would have been voted out by now. But followed this with the suggestion that at least the members would have got to watch the Speaker being forced to eat Kangaroo Testicles. Huge roar of laughter here. Admittedly schoolboy humour which Johnson is a master at, but humour that worked. Partly cause it played into the hands of a willing culture that would lap that sort of gag up but also because the timing, the imagery and the delivery were all in synch. Key to the successful delivery of a punchline.

We all know and are aware that Johnson is talking at a time when his premiership has been dogged with all sorts of controversy over his private life and contentious feeling about his ability to actually lead us out of Brexit. That said he stood tall, proud and strong today at his lectern tittilating the crowds and whipping them up into a frenzy of laughter and applause. Not difficult when faced with a room of Tory faithful desperate to hear the re-invigorating mantras around the strength of Conservative Capitalism. 

My patience and ability to listen somewhat gave way at the mention of the Tories being the party of the NHS. 

I have to reign myself in as this blog site is not about politics…but it is about values, beliefs and the ability to convey passionate messages delivered well.

BOJO did a good job at that - but that is about as much as he did do. There were lots of big pointy hand gestures to the audience in a sort of Saturday Night Fever sweep of the hand and arms open wide. There was also a lot of staccato speech patterns with breathy passes in-between each phrase supported by a lot of stamping on the podium. This for me seemed to mirror his desire and need to push through with a No Deal Brexit whatever the consequence. An example of his physicality mirroring his mantra and his core belief. 

This activity was also reflected in his regular refrain of “Get Brexit Done”…not a particularly catchy phrase but nonetheless one that is directional, focused and leaves the audience with no illusion as to what he wants to do.

There was lots of reference to “Rebooting”, “Relaunching” and that now hackneyed tory soundbite of “Turbo Charging” everything it casts its eye on.

This certainly was an invigorating speech, much better delivered than anything Theresa May could have mustered, but unlike Theresa May it was all soundbites and visionary promises that somehow we the audience felt was empty of something and that something was “truth”. The truth about how much money there actually is out there to spend, the truth about what is actually tangible in deal making with a powerful and once friendly ally and the truth about what will actually happen if we leave without a deal on the 31st Oct.

All the magnanimous fist pumping, lectern bashing and arms stretched open wide can not make up for the lacking of “truth” and that comes from several things of which content and what  the eyes do to support that content delivery are key. BOJO’s eyes were dead and his content was lacking in any real discernable Pathos, Logos or indeed Ethos and this member of the audience couldn’t help but feel left wanting.  

Keep your eyes peeled for our next brief instalment of what we mean by Pathos, Egos and Logos.

An Insight into Internal Confidence

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I went to see Murder on the Orient Express sometime ago now. Last year in fact.

What a beautifully shot film. If you get a chance it is certainly worth the 109 mins minus all the trailers at the beginning. Branagh again at his sublime best. That's as far as I go on the review front.

There's many brilliant moments but there is a particularly compelling moment and for our purposes (IMEUS) a real moment of insight into INTERNAL CONFIDENCE in the film where Branagh plying Hercule Poirot faces Johnny Depp. 

Johnny Depps character, Ratchett, is a pretty deadly individual - At one point he tries to enlist Poirot to come to his aide - Poirot (Branagh) eyes him with a steely stare and in response to Depp's character's request to enrol him in his plan says:

"No (long pause). I do not like the look of your face" - it's a great moment. Not only funny in how Branagh delivers the line (in a Belgium accent) but here is a performed moment where you see such "inner strength" being played. 

First and foremost strength as a character with Poirot facing down Ratchett. A tussle between two sets of personal agendas. But equally impressive the strength of two titans of the silver screen engaging with each other as well known actors. 

I would love to have a tap into the mind of Branagh in this moment - I wonder what images he sees when we looks into the eyes of Depp in this moment, I wonder what he uses as a point of concentration. One thing is for sure there will be some internal chatter going on.

Managing this internal chatter is a major part of the battle we all face when we are in moments of pressure and exposure.  

Performing in extremis is an acquired art that takes years of practice but there are techniques that can be used to grow this capability. 

Principally a clear definition and conviction in the values you are determined to espouse. Being connected to these defined values allows the determination and resolve to come through. 

* I have subsequent to writing this post discovered from an internal source that Branagh and Depp were both actually trying to make each other laugh in this moment - so much for the seriousness of this piece. And yet, and yet though different underlying thoughts still the external pressure of lights, camera, action. Which we would maintain requires even more reason of the need for resolve and connection to your core message and maintaining a through line on inner confidence. 

Takes technique and practice. 
 

The TV Q&A between Corbyn & May in the run up to the general election on the 8th June 2017

Author: Sam Bond

These Blog pieces are meant to be impartial but I have to say it, I don't really like Jeremy Corbyn & Theresa May leaves me cold.

I genuinely needed persuading as to which side I might come down on. *

This is what impression was made on me through this week’s Q&A in terms of what I perceived through the IMEUS looking glass.

For those of you who didn’t catch it, the format of this presentation started with a live Q&A with questions from the audience followed by an interview with the big man himself, Jeremy Paxman.

Jeremy Corbyn

In presenting and answering the questions of the audience he used "I" throughout – outwardly trying to show that he was taking responsibility.

He used his tonal inflection to relatively strong effect. Passionately expressing himself.

Short rapid phrasing mixed in with slower more methodical reasoning – made his arguments and reasoning easy to follow.

He used his hands well with meaning and intentions. Stressing and heightening the important points.

He was regularly pulsing on the verbs adding power and strong (believable) intention to what he was saying.

When talking with Jeremy Paxman he was quite funny and used quite interesting tactics to field Paxman’s questioning and grilling.

He smiled often, working with the statements that Paxman made rather than avoiding them.

Overall Corbyn worked well with Paxman using the energy and the ripples of applause and laughter from the audience.

At one point he states strongly and with passion, which the audience seemed to believe:

“I don't want to live in a country of food banks, of overfilled schools I want to live in a country that cares!”

 An example of simple clear powerful statements. This tactic and ability gets to the nub of taking responsibility and has a positive effect on the audience.

Paxman pilloried him over Europe. A not surprisingly frustrated line of questioning ended with Paxman asking Corbyn repeatedly how much he was prepared to give to get a deal (to get out of Europe).

Corbyn did not give Paxman what he wanted.

Paxman kept in and on asking same question.

Paxman eventually asks in deepened low tones (quite threatening);

”I’m asking you about immigration”

Corbyn still did not give Paxman what he wanted. A technique, that with practice, can empower and embolden (if done with humility).

Corbyn in the main gave simple straightforward answers to tricky questions. An example. Paxman says:

 “Why did you say you were sorry Osama Bin Laden was killed?”

Corbyn responds:

 “Because I think he should have been captured and put on trial for what he did”

The result the loudest applause of the debate.

Being simple and short with your responses can give the sense of straight talking no nonsense leadership.

As a consequence of this neat tight and well paced Q&A and interview with Paxman he got a lot of spontaneous claps in response to what he was saying.

Theresa May

Mrs. May starts with a happy birthday to Faisal the host - nice touch.

May uses first names straight away.

Her voice is shaky. Personally she always worries me when she speaks, as she seems about to burst into tears at any moment.

May stands in a fashion that seems as comfortable as Jeremy Corbyn.

She draws down on the left hand side of her face to give her energy, (and her body - see later below when talking to Mr. Paxman)

She has good stress and emphasis in what she says.

The dementia tax question is reasonably put by a concerned 74 year old.

May for my money waffles in response. She got some applause in answer to this question, but not from the man that asked the question.

The general message here was that the Tory party is a consultative party - both for cap on value of social housing and winter fuel allowance. A bit of skepticism in the audience in response to this statement.

There was a schools funding question.

Her answer was that she wants our youngsters to get the best possible start in life – but somehow I didn't believe her. It ran off the tongue like a hackneyed pre rehearsed script. Making rehearsed thinking and scripting appear natural is an art best practiced at home not in public.

In funding in schools she says:

We know the Labour Party figures don't add up. There is some derisive laughing (aimed at her government) from the audience in protest. She pauses but manages the hiatus well and keeps her composure.

On Brexit, there was a question about the 350 million pounds that was supposed to come back to the NHS, which there is a claim by a member of the audience that we (the general public) were lied to.

She chose not to answer that question but then went on about getting the best deal out of Europe. She in fact talked about getting the best deal out of Europe four times at this juncture.

There was a health service question around under funding. Again it seemed like she was warbling here, talking about getting a first class care system but no mention around how she is going to do it

An accusation around the Tories being the “Nasty” party came up again. Mrs. May couldn't really give an adequate answer in response.

She talked about being a "bloody difficult woman" to get the deal done but didn't answer the question that was directed towards attitude and value.

When talking with Jeremy Paxman he asks her when she changed her mind about leaving the European Union

She stops herself, as did Corbyn when Paxman interrupts.

It is hard to know how to respond when faced with a difficult challenger but there are techniques and taking a moment to gain one’s composure is certainly one.

Her answer: She goes down the line that she is listening to the people and there is applause.

Paxman says, “But you don't really believe in it do you?”

She doesn't answer.

 Paxman says, “You still think it's a duff idea.”

Mrs May laughs somewhat out of embarrassment.

Mrs. May says, “If we get Brexit right there are some great opportunities for us.” But somehow it is hard to believe her.

Mr. Paxman states, “It is very important that people can trust their governments and politicians. What is the cap (on immigration) going to be?

Slight pause

“You don’t know do you?”

 Mrs. May says in response, “We are going to go to the people.”

But it is too late Paxman puts in the killer line, “So basically you don't know.”

Paxman then asks if we look at something else on which she has changed her mind. Self employed contributions.

She accepts that she has changed her mind on this.

Paxman then states, “What people in Europe are going to see is she's a blowhard who collapses at the first sound of gun fire!”

He then adds “You also said there was not going to be a general election until 2020”

To this she defends herself. “It became increasingly clear that other parties were going to frustrate the will of the British people on Brexit and we needed a clear mandate.”

Mrs. May remained calm and collected throughout quite a hard grilling but not through rooted beliefs but clinging to a newly found performance technique

Towards the end of this questioning Mr. Paxman asks, “How much of our money are you prepared to give Europe to get a deal?”

Mrs. May answers, “We will look for a fair settlement of our rights and obligations.”

“Have you got a figure in your head to get out of this club?”

Again she bangs on about getting the right deal. A script we have heard of time and again.

“No deal is better than a bad deal”, she keeps repeating. Mr. Paxman reminds her of this.

Overall for my money, a bit too much reliance on sound bites and a nervous snorty laugh with a shaky lip that ‘tells” an awful lot about how she is feeling when under the spotlight.

That said an interesting technique Mrs. May did employ was to sit rooted to the left hand side of her seat - looking Mr. Paxman directly in the eye. When it comes to dealing with a pushy questioner quite a good technique to rely on.

Our overall summary, clearly both had had a lot of work done in preparation and it shows. On balance Mr. Corbyn put in a performance that was more in control and more authoritative, honestly and clearly showing what he thought and felt but one could argue as the underdog that might be an easier position to play.

What was your take? We would be interested to know with any comments.

* At the time of writing I am of course considering a vote for the Lib Dem for our local MP.

An Insight into Trump's Presentation Technique

The use of the adjective - an oft overlooked little word

People, badly informed people, underestimate the power of words. But if you want to succeed bigly, like even become President, here’s how you use them. There is something here significant for you. Really, really, significant. Here’s how you do it. They don’t want you to know this, but I am going to tell you.

You need a lot of adjectives, big, beautiful adjectives. Tremendous adjectives. And abstract nouns. Tremendously abstract. And stick them together with your magnificent adjectives. Amazing Things. Big Ideas. Fantastic Potential. It’s a beautiful thing. I know that you are full of the most tremendous ideas. Really tremendous. You’re a really incredible person. And don’t forget the pronouns. I will help you tap your full potential. I will. They don’t want you to know that, but you will. Bigly. And the intensifiers – that’s really, really important.

And what it means is this. Adjectives give you so, so much more flexibility. So, so much. Adjectives are easy to change. Easier than nouns. Those thieving Mexicans. They’re terrible people. Those magnificent Mexicans. They’re great people, really great people.

But misinformed people, very, very, misinformed people, think Donald Trump is stupid. He’s not. He knows adjectives are easier to change than nouns. That’s what makes it easier for him to manipulate people. He calls Hillary a liar – that’s a lasting name. He calls her ‘lying Hillary’ that’s a passing phase. He can say she’s stopped lying – in an instant – and call her hard-working Hillary, servant of the state.  

Welcome to the future: the world changed by the fast-changing adjective. So, don’t tell me words don’t matter. It’s time to make the world a truly beautiful thing – by using words for good. 

Has finding the right words to use to express what you want to say been a problem for you? If so get in touch

Author: Aidan Elliott

The power behind Obama’s speech giving - Farewell Address 10th Jan 2017

It’s time to say goodbye. President Barak Obama opens his farewell speech with an emotional intensity that holds us throughout the 50 odd minutes of his speech right to the closing “May God continue to bless America”.

How does he do it? Time and again?

Technique. Practice and Technique. Two of the most important elements of speech giving. Obama actually is in a league of few…those that can orate, when aspects of experience, charisma and political charm (not just charm) all have a bearing.

Let’s briefly look at what makes this closing address so successful. And please don’t take our word for it, watch it and see for yourself. 

He enters the arena like a rockstar. A few adjustments of his sleeves, a wave or two to members in the audience and then a direct instruction to his audience “you can sit down”.

Here he clearly shows power and authority in how he takes the stage - He MANAGES AND CONTROLS HIS STATUS by playing a high status card through PHYSICAL EMBODIMENT AND DIRECT INSTRUCTION and engages his audience by focusing on one or two individuals instead of trying to absorb the whole audience. HE USES HIS EYELINE WELL AND FOCUSES HIS INTENTION - all techniques.

He talks about the places he has been and the people he has met. “To farms, factory floors, diners and military posts” - A direct understanding of the power of ALLITERATION AND SYNCOPATION and yes clearly a very canny speechwriter by his side.

He refers to these places as moments of encounter that helped him “figure out who he was” and makes the point that we “his people” helped him. He throughout uses very subtle and gentle devices to include us, his audience on his journey with him. This is an example of how one directly wins friends and influences thoughts. GETTING YOUR AUDIENCE ON SIDE.

In fact throughout his speech he more often than not refers to “we” as opposed to “I”, thereby involving his audience throughout in his thoughts.

He says, “America is exceptional in how it faces change. The work of democracy is hard and always feels bloody, but the long sweep of America has always been forward focused.” He credits each and every person with a vital role - that of being a citizen in democracy and that each and every one of them were responsible for the many changes the country has experienced during his tenure as President. PRAISE IN THE RIGHT PLACE WITHOUT BECOMING SYCOPHANTIC CAN BE VERY POWERFUL.

As the camera draws out to show Mr Obama on the podium we can see that there are of course teleprompters - no surprise there - the surprise is that he hardly looks at them. Obama makes long declarations and platitudes that he seems to have clearly rehearsed. For example he quotes George Washington and says, “Self government is the underpinning of our safety, prosperity and liberty. But from different causes and from different quarters much pains will be taken to weaken in your minds, the conviction of this truth”.

This quote is hard to remember but he has learnt this, taken the time to learn it and more importantly has rehearsed how to say it so it has resonance. Important this OBAMA KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS TO SAY AND HOW HE WANTS TO SAY IT. HERE AGAIN PREPARATION IS ALL.

He touches his heart with regular frequency - Re emphasising he means what he says. HIS MESSAGE IS CONGRUENT WITH HIS THOUGHT.

He makes powerful statements. He says…”We need to accept the responsibility of sponsorship…The Constitution is just a piece of paper. We the people give it power through the choices we make and the connections we build”. Statements like these POWERFULLY INCLUDE US IN HIS THINKING and is yet another technique in carrying your audience with you.

Of course speech making like this all becomes the fish and chip paper of tomorrow but for the moment that it is being aired, my goodness the impact is there for all to not only see but also feel. And that is the important point here and the tangible quality of what makes Obama a great speaker he is responsible for making his audience “feel”.

Being responsible for making your audience feel is a very powerful position to be in.

Author: Sam Bond

How disconnection led to Brexit

Depending upon how you voted yesterday you might be either delirious or desolate.

But from our perspective the bigger issue is how the referendum was merely the end of a process of disconnection, where millions of people found themselves unable to persuade or influence the political elites until they felt their best choice was the ‘nuclear’ option of decoupling from Europe.

We may not be making major decisions like leaving Europe every day, but the divide between each other’s realities often leads to unproductive relationships socially and at work – and here taking the ‘nuclear option’ can still cause a great deal of stress and anxiety.  At IMEUS we believe that the way forward is to ensure everyone has the communication skills to articulate their point-of-view confidently and to be able to influence others for mutual benefit.

Our unique online assessment gives you an insight into how you appear to other people along with helpful suggestions about the areas you could develop further – to make you more confident, more authoritative and more influential.

Click here for more details. 

Living Slow

I have just returned from a golden, sandy, sunny, swimming through crystal waters, late-night dancing on the beach, chilling to reggae, rum filled (I think you get the idea!) paradise holiday in the Caribbean.  

Needless to say I am desperately trying to hold onto the feeling of being there as I roll back into London life.  

On arrival to the island, shaking off my usual fast paced London speed took some time.  I was advised to slow down - there’s no need to frog march through the hotel, no need to apologise for being late to breakfast, I was told to embrace island life and “live slow”.  It took some time to truly adopt this philosophy, but eventually it began to sink in (with every rum cocktail aiding the process).  As I settled into life on my heavenly island, I noticed a change in myself - a slowing down, a savouring, an ability to enjoy a moment for itself rather than thinking about what was next.  Even a bus ride was enjoyable - just to sit and look - not bothering to check my phone for some mildly interesting joke or cute cat to keep my attention.  This is so unlike my normal travel experience in London - as a Londoner I have become adept at doing things quickly and efficiently - I rush through train stations even when I am not late - it has become a habit - something that is ingrained and I don’t even question it.

But my tropical paradise experience has clung to me as I return back to London town.  I feel like I am in a bubble on my morning commute - I am “living slow” and I am keen to maintain it for as long as possible rather than absorbing the London pace of life.

Living slow makes me feel calmer, feel more in control, more poised, more grateful and more alert to the world around me.  I will take time to say good morning to the bus driver every morning, (even though he is yet to respond, I will continue) - living slow and taking the time to engage with my surroundings makes me feel better about myself.

I  know that I  can have a slightly frenetic energy so anything that helps me to slow down - yoga, breathing, walking or pretending I am still on a Caribbean island - always helps.

So for as long as it lasts, I will continue to live slow whilst living my “foot to the pedal” London life. So if you see me running through a tube station, three bags hanging off my arm, speaking to someone on the phone whilst looking for my oyster card in my bag, please do take a moment to remind me to slow it down - because London life will try to seep into my bones, and a little reminder is always welcome to keep me on the straight and narrow - to keep me as cool as a Caribbean cucumber and living slow :)

EUROVISION 2016 – Our take sitting on the sofa in the UK.

My top three went like this – Australia, Lithuania and Spain.

Eurovision had my full attention this year. It ran like a smooth well-oiled machine.

It still had the Euro Brand running all through it but this year there were no milkmaids executing purposefully erotic dance moves with milk churns and ladles (the ladles was when the erotic piece took place). And we had Justin Timberlake to boot, singing one of the best released pop songs so far in 2016. The American music market has clearly tuned into the fact that Eurovision entices an audience of some 200 million.

The acts themselves were all superbly supported by high-end production value, executing both audio and visually superb thrilling moments.

The great thing about Eurovision is we can all be Judge and Jury. I know in my front room we had a lot of fun scoring the acts ourselves.

A snapshot of our POV on the acts ran like this:

Belgium kicked it off with Laura Tesoro singing “What’s the Pressure” – quite an apt title song given the pressure of being the opening act.

The moment when we first open our mouth to speak or in this case sing, always engenders a nervous moment of jumping off the precipice and it is at moments like these that we had better be sure we have all our material and thoughts cleverly lined up in support of our presentation.

Luckily Laura had a lot of this in order and more – great moves, slick dancing.

The singing for me was a little lack luster. Laura suffered from not having quite the range of vocal to deliver the lasting punch this song needed.

A few more followed and we came to Italy’s submission. Francesca Michielin singing “No Degree of Separation”. Unfortunately there was some separation here – Francesca was at times a bit out of tune and the nerves somewhat shone through. Using her breath could have supported her here. However this was the first song sang in the performer’s own language rather than English and this gave her a sense of passion and connection to the message of her song.

In relief to this Australia’s entry was superb – their second year in the competition and they just turned it all on. Dami Im sang “Sound of Silence”. She entered sitting on a box. She opened strong and her stillness and focus allowed the power of her voice to ring through. To my mind a real contender at that early stage in the contest.

We had France’s entry – A catchy edgy number sung with sensuality and sexuality. Amir’s song was “J’ai Cherche” – at one point he sings “You’re the one making me strong” and you really believed what he was saying because he embodied his content in his delivery.

Russia’s entry – Sergey Lazarev attacked his song with unbelievable verve and energy. Climbing a wall while singing. Potentially risking doing too much and not letting the delivery of the song do the work for him.

The list goes on. I could say more but there are plenty of reviews out there to get the detail.

My vote throughout was firmly locked on Dami Im. She demonstrated in performance all that we advocate at IMEUS in focusing on certain techniques to hold and captivate your audience. A strong message (song) that had strength, energy and passion in it (the song built with natural cadences) and she was still and focused in on that stage (she used the box she was sitting on to ground her) making her connection to her environment work for her.

As a result the power of her message and essence of what she was about shone through and for us sitting on the sofa she was the sum total of all that the power of performance can deliver.

She was winning all the way through until the final stroke when Ukraine took poll position. The competition took a political turn and will probably play itself out in the next weeks and months to come.

Eurovision 2016 was certainly a year to remember and what a lot of insight it reveals when it comes to standing on a stage and belting out a message, political or otherwise.  

The London Mayoral Debate 2016

It seems we are currently being asked to choose a lot lately.

When I turn on my radio or TV it feels like all that is being talked about is which President should America be opting for, should we in Britain stay in or out of Europe and a question that is absolutely current and more directly linked to home where I live, which Mayor should we be choosing.

Alright I am going to wade in there. The London Mayoral Debate. I have read the papers and heard the panel discussions. I understand the claims by the various wannabes - but for me - and this is always all about personal choice - I need to see the people to know which way I am going to go.

I tuned into the TV Debate hosted by Andrew Neil. My very first observation (which is one I believe we all naturally take note of) was first noticing the differing heights of the presenters (did you know our eye is instinctively drawn to the tallest person in a line up?) and second who did I find most attractively appealing.

I went into this whole observation piece as a Labour Man but was open to voting either way between Sadiq Khan and Zak Goldsmith. However as Mr Khan went on something made me switch.

When we observe people there are very subtle nuances in communication patterns that influence how we feel about them. How they sound, what they do with their body and where and how they emphasis certain words. The content, actually listening to what they say, is important. However the way they present, how they say what they say, ultimately influences what we feel about them and importantly (and here is the killer blow) whether we trust them.

Mr Khan opened not pronouncing his “T’s” - in fact all his consonants were not properly articulated.

When Mr Goldsmith started talking he was trying to cram all he wanted to say into one sentence almost never taking a breath which made me agitated watching him go through all of this.

Mr Khan used the customary David Cameron “clenched fist thumping in the air” thing he does, to get his point across which i found quite intimidating.

 Sian Berry on the other hand had a natural ease to how she was communicating. Not forced or put on, just easy. I found myself relaxing in to what she was saying. I took in quite a bit of what Caroline Pigeon was saying but there was in contrast to Sian Berry an intensity that put me off. This is by the way a very personal take. This won’t be the same for everyone.

On policies for London I was fundamentally between Kahn and Goldsmith. 

Sadiq Kahn’s lists of what he would do made audience members eyes close up in confusion, but his voice was powerful and strong where Zac Goldsmith’s voice was weak and over aspirated.

As the debate went on I found myself going Kahn, Goldsmith, Kahn, Berry, Kahn, Goldsmith, Goldsmith….my head was in a tailspin as if there was a boxing match going on somewhere inside of there… but you know what for me the name that kept being repeated was Goldsmith and this surprised me. “But I am a Labour man through and through…”

As they were coming to an end in the debate, which Andrew Neil (like him or loathe him) managed in a very well directed fashion (a lot of experience there), I could suddenly see that Mr Khan might well get things done, which is important. However there was something about his manner that made me not feel comfortable about the way in which these intended accomplishments might be achieved and something conversely in Zac Goldsmiths style that made me trust him more.

There it is, STYLE & TRUST, two foundation stones that I fell back on to make my choice.

It’s done.

My ballot paper has been submitted off the back of a perception and a value on account of what has been communicated across the airwaves.

Never underestimate the subtle power of your style and how it can influence others. 

 

Interested in finding out more about what your style and power is….click here to submit a video selfie.

Remembering Me

It is really hard…somedays..sometimes to remember about me. Put like that it sounds almost illogical or back to front or basically just not right but "remembering me” requires back to front thinking.

How many articles have we read of late that talk about the quality time in our life being subsumed by technological demands,,,,,,,,, the fact that our work life balance is out of whack or that we are just not eating the right things or exercising hard enough? The journalistic observations and factoids about 21st century living have a habit of dragging us down. Not feeling good enough or that we are not doing enough.

It’s hard, really hard to know how we really feel about stuff sometimes which is why the act of “remembering me” can help give us just a few moments peace in a busy hour, crazy day or nightmare week just to stop, breathe and start to think from a point of centeredness that has ME at the heart of things.

How do we go about remembering me? Well the truth is there are lots of ways to do this. Breathing, meditation, mindfulness, drawing, doing something creative, doing something that cuts you off from the freneticism of being a part of this world, swimming, running, cycling, laughing, playing (can you remember when you last engaged in “play”?)…the list goes on.

Thinking about how you think doesn’t have to be hard - it can start with something ever so small. Here’s one suggestion.

Next time you are in the bathroom brushing your teeth, combing your hair or washing your face take a moment to look at yourself in the mirror. Look at that person and just repeat your name - say it to the face you look at….say it two or three times…you might feel brave enough to say it out loud….and eventually if you can say just a couple of times under your breath, in your head or whatever….”This is….(your name)” then you have done the ever so small thing that is looking after you (remembering me)….and small things lead to big things and big things lead to great things…

A great thing that is YOU. 

"Remembering me”, really builds the strength in you.